There’s a reoccurring dream I keep having in which I fall in love with a woman. She’s always beautiful, warm, and kind, but never the same one. They’re all slightly different. What’s not different are the strong feelings of love that are invoked for them; so much so that even after waking up they linger. Sometimes even for days. Every time I wake up, I miss them dearly.
One might think it’s rather silly to miss a person that is not even real; but what is the difference? What are these powerful dreams teaching us about the seeming waking world?
Feelings of romantic love aren’t the only feelings I’ve felt. I’ve woken up in anger, fear, laughter, peace, and with all the feelings in between. The dream may have passed, but for that moment it was so real that it induced very real sentiments. How much different is that from the waking world?
Just the same as in the dream world, the waking world presents us with very convincing images. Scenarios that just like in the dream world, scare us, excite us, makes us feel love, compassion, and more.
Both worlds are fleeing moments in time. Neither world last longer than a few moments of consciousness. Regardless of how long a dream lasts, for a brief moment in time, they are very real to the dreamer.
So how then can we define real? How can we tell if the images we have been presented with our whole lives are the truth? Just as in Plato’s Allegory of the Cave, the prisoners only saw shadows projected on the wall in front of them that they believed were real. It’s not until one of the prisoners escapes that they have a chance of seeing the truth. Some don’t believe the prisoner who escaped, who comes back to try and free them, instead they decide to kill him because of his corrupt eyes.
When we are dreaming, we can’t tell if what we are seeing with our eyes is real or not. We accept it because it’s there, and react to it. I don’t really know if there is a way to tell whether what we see is real or not. However, something that is real must be permanent. It must exist permanently, not show itself and then disappear. That is my personal requirement for reality. So far, the only thing that I have found to fit that requirement are my feelings of loving-kindness for all living beings, regardless of what they have done. It is the state of mind that matters.
Once the mind escapes and sees things for what they really are, there is no more reason to be scared, unhappy, or depressed. One can then see clearly and becomes truly and permanently happy knowing that they are finally free.
In dreams we find ourselves scared and happy. We find ourselves creating wars and love that we believe to be real. The truth is to realise that you are dreaming. The universe is a creation of your own.
Wake up and know that you created those feelings of love. Choose to only create feelings of peace and laughter and let go of your devilish nightmares. It’s time to wake up, my Love.