“If you want to succeed in a relationship you gotta have deep caring; you gotta find out what this person really wants. You gotta communicate every single day what’s going on with each other, ways to support each other, and you gotta commit to whatever it takes to make the relationship work.” -Tony Robbins
When a person does not live a life true to themselves (in accordance to their own heart), they will experience different forms of emotional negativity. It may manifest as tiredness, irritation, dissatisfaction, crankiness, anger, frustration, depression, etc. Which can be a very taxing experience not only for themselves, but for the people around them as well. This holds especially true in romantic relationships.
Sometimes a couple will find themselves being frustrated at each other for the silliest of reasons. They may not realize that the real underlying cause of the frustration is because one or both of the parties are not having their hearts fulfilled. If the true underlying issue is not understood and corrected, it will lead to more aggravation, and eventually a separation.
If you are experiencing frequent feelings of frustration, irritation, or crankiness, then those are good signs you or your partner may not be living with fulfilled hearts.
Does your partner irritate you when he doesn’t reply to one or two of your texts messages? Are you cranky because she didn’t clean up after herself? Are you frustrated because he’s ten minutes late for a date? The more often you are angry or irritated at each other for simple things, the more of an indicator it is that one or both of you are not having your hearts fulfilled.
If your partner is a wonderful person in your eyes, but there are still frequent frustrations or an overall sense of dissatisfaction, then consider looking for ways to help one another connect with each other’s hearts. Help one another create an environment where your hearts can express themselves and flourish.
Find out what each other truly wants and commit to strengthening each other’s heart. Help each other grow and reach your goals.
When a relationship begins with the purpose of helping each other reach their own heart potential, a relationship will be created where both people are so fulfilled and happy, that love is a natural consequence.
Here are some ways to strengthen your relationship:
- Share an activity or experience that you both enjoy. If for example you both thrive while painting, then by all means create an atmosphere where you can both unleash your creative sides. When both of you are at your best, then the relationship will be at its best.
- Grow together. Look for areas in which you can both grow together or individually. If a couple does not grow together, it is likely that one person will outgrow the other. Look for ways to help one another grow, so that you may each grow at the same rate. Say for example both of you want to improve financially, then what each of you could do is encourage each other and share what each of you learn.
- Communicate. Talk with each other on a regular basis about how each of you are feeling. If talking is too difficult for either of you, then write your feelings down and have the other person read it. When you share each other’s feelings, don’t become upset for any truths that you may find. You need truth for any relationship to flourish. This is not the time to be upset at each other; it’s a time to improve.
- Care. Make an effort to care for the other person and help them when they are in need. If your partner is late for work, then help them by preparing them a quick bite to eat. These little actions will add to the love of the relationship.
- Give your partner space to work out their issues individually. Some people work best alone. There’s no point in trying to help a person if you can’t help them. Give them time and only help them if they ask for your help.
- End the relationship. Sometimes the best way to improve a relationship is to end it. If you find yourself with a person who refuses to improve in any way, then perhaps it’s best that you reevaluate your relationship with this person and decide whether you want to continue it or end it. It’s not uncommon that relationships don’t always work out and sometimes the best course of action is to let each other move on to find someone better suited.
Relationships work best when the hearts share the same values and desires. If I were a person who held financial abundance as a priority, but my partner does not, many disagreements could arise because of that difference and the chances of the relationship being successful would be lowered. Talk with your partner to find out what each of you really want and care for. Then help each other achieve it.